Even Better Than Eden: Ch. 5, Bridegroom, Personal Journal
In You and Me Forever, Francis Chan starts out with this bold statement:
“Even now, I am working to make sure that my family is set up for the future. When most people make that statement, they are talking about financial security for their last few years on earth. When I say it, I’m referring to the million of years that come after that. People accuse me of going overboard in preparing for my first ten million years in eternity. In my opinion, people go overboard in worrying about their last ten years on earth.”
Beyond providing for her life here, he is more passionate about making sure she lives a life without regret before God. He wants her to hear God’s “well done” at the end of her life.
Is that your aim in marriage?
He goes on to observe,
“A strange thing happened when Lisa and I started living with an eternal lens: it caused us to enjoy the here and now! Many people will tell you to focus on your marriage, to focus on each other; but we discovered that focusing on God’s mission made our marriage amazing. This caused us to experience Jesus deeply—what could be better?”
How might this impact my own marriage today? How does the reality of eternity touch down into the nooks and crannies of our lives and work itself into our conversations, decisions, and activities?
I confess that I am often wrapped up in the immediate. I’m not thinking about eternity.
And while those things need to be done or considered, do I want them to drive our marriage?
When they do, it will keep my marriage rooted in this earth.
But when I look at my marriage as preparation for my eternal future with my heavenly Bridegroom, it takes on a new perspective.
My husband and I have not mastered this, but it is impacting us.
It has changed how we serve our kids at home. When we think about preparing them for the future, what future is it—an earthly or a heavenly one?
It has changed how we look at our future. How will we spend our retirement—on ourselves or in service?
It even affects how we argue. In light of eternity is it really worth it?
If I believe there is an eternal home with a wedding to come, this reality will frame my “reality” here. Marriage here is but a shadow of the real marriage to come.
Therefore, my greatest contribution is helping my husband get ready for that marriage. As the Chans and Nancy Guthrie have observed, our relationships now will grow richer as a result.
Even if your spouse is not on the same page, that doesn’t matter. Will you commit to helping them grow closer to the Lord, wherever they’re at? Will you be patient as they do so?
Try it. Then trust Him, knowing this commitment will impact your eternity—and theirs.
What better investment can we make?