I wish I could way that I always heed this exhortation from Paul. But I don't. I tend to hold on to my little grudges and fume inside. Somehow I think that as long as I hold on to it, I am punishing the other person.
Unfortunately, I am not. The only person I am really helping is the enemy. Every little grudge is a spiritual crack into which he can just get a hold into my heart.
The only way to keep him from getting any leverage is to do exactly what this verse says. It says, "do not let the sun go down on your anger." This suggests that the ball is entirely in my court. It has nothing to do with the other person. I need to deal with my own anger issues.
Because the truth is, holding grudges and harboring an angry spirit really does no one any good, least of all myself. In fact, I probably end up shoorting myself in the foot when I do so.
But worse, I am also aiding the enemy. For someone who is trying to put off the old self and put on the new one, this isn't going to help.
So when your husband fails you, or your kids get the better of you yet one more time or your best friend disappoints you, don't let your anger settle in your heart. Deal with it. You'll thank yourself later.
- What are often common causes of anger for you? What are its roots?
- What benefits do you think you gain from holding on to your anger? What do you lose?
- What needs to be relinquished before you go to bed tonight?