"Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands."--Ephesians 5:22-24
This is certainly not the first time I've posted on this passage, and it's probably not going to be the last either. Maybe it's because I need to hear this myself over and over. I am definitely not the submissive sort by nature. I'd much rather be the one in charge.
And yet, God's call to us as wives is submission to our husbands. Not because we're inferior or dumb or weak. I'd say it requires just the opposite. It requires a soul that is not chained by the things of this world but can see the overarching big picture. It needs a wisdom that transcends the limits of common sense. And it definitely calls for a power that we do not naturally possess.
As wives, we are to submit to our husbands as we would submit to our Lord. Not that we are to worship our husbands as we worship our Lord. But in submitting to them, we become a picture in the flesh of a much greater spiritual reality. When we bend our wills to honor our husbands, when we release the need to be right, or as we give up having the last we word, not only do we allow God to shape our character, but we honor Him as well.
Sometimes I think I'm doing okay when I submit to my husband in the things that are easy. But what about the things that are hard? This verse reminds me that we are to submit in everything, even in the areas when I resist. Not that I can't express those doubts or concerns. But after I have said my piece, am I willing to trust the Lord to guide my husband?
Submitting is a discipline and an act of faith and a picture of strength. What kind of representation does your marriage provide to the watching world?
- What are your thoughts about submission? Ask the Lord to guide you into developing his perspective and heart.
- What area(s) of contention exist in your marriage? Are they related in any way to an unsubmissive spirit? How might your marriage change if you were willing to submit to your husband?
- Ask the Lord to show you one way that you can submit to your husband today, big or little.