"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh."--Genesis 2:24 Even up till a few years ago, I had always thought of prayer as a one-way street. I tell God what I want and if I prayed "right", He would answer me as I wish. I don't need to tell you that it doesn't work that way!
Rather, prayer is meant to be a two-way communication, with both talking and listening. The prayers in this section are going to start moving in that direction. Instead of us doing all the talking, I am going to leave spaces for you to just pause and listen. They will be [written in italics like this]. The best way I can picture this is sitting like Mary in Luke 10:39. Just as in a conversation with another person, we don't just keep talking (hopefully!), we ask questions and listen to their response. As you pray, pause and let the Lord have a chance to speak.
I hope that these prayers will be a way for you to connect personally with the Lord, so that you can receive from Him the specific details and directions that are needed for your marriage. God bless you as you continue to pray.
Thank You for bringing my husband and I together to begin our family. I thank You in particular for my husband's [detail a list of character qualities, abilities, gifts, etc. that you appreciate].
In Your sight, we are one flesh. Though we exist in two separate bodies, in Your eyes, we are a unit. As the leaders of our family, I pray that my husband and I will be united in the leadership of this family. I particularly pray for him as the spiritual head of our home. Will You sensitize his spirit to Your Holy Spirit, that he may follow in His paths?
In those times when my husband does not want to lead, I pray that You will plant in him the desire to do so. I cannot do this; only You can. Keep me faithfully praying and looking to You and trusting You as I wait for You to change his heart. I pray that You will provide him with godly friends who will challenge and inspire him to step into this role in our home.
Father, I also pray for myself, that You will help me to make our marriage a priority. You know what I need to do every day. The needs often seem so pressing and urgent that it is easy for me to neglect my husband. But You have established our relationship first, before our relationships with our kids. As much as I love my children, I pray that You will help me to love my husband even more.
You desire us to leave our father and mother so that we can establish our own home. Have we done this, Lord? Or has one or both of us failed to break the union with our parents? Please show me if this is an issue that is keeping us from bonding with each other. [if you think this is an issue for you, take any time you need to let the Lord process it with you.] What next steps do I/we need to take to address this issue---do we need to address it with one another? If so, when and how? Do we need to seek outside help? If so, who and when? Are there any other steps You want us to take? [pause and listen.]
If there is any other barrier in our relationship, will You show me where that is? [pause here and allow the Lord to show you if there is anything that needs to be dealt with--take as long as you need] What do You want me to do, or what do You need to address and/or change in me? [pause again] Can You show me one way I can let my husband know today that he is important, that I cherish him and appreciate his presence in my life? [pause--let the Lord guide you here]
Father, I pray that our marriage will endure through the years, that what You have joined together will not be torn apart by the pressures of daily living, little irritations or small cracks that threaten to weaken the foundation of our family. Please protect us from those things that seek to dissolve our union---even if they are our own children. Build in us both a desire to strengthen our marriage and make it a priority. Thank You Father. In Jesus' name, Amen.
Other posts to consider: The Beginning of a Family