Praying for Our Husbands: Doing Battle

Just a thought today on why we need to pray for our husbands:

"The strength of a man and wife joined together in God's sight is far greater than the sum of the strengths of each of the two individuals....That's why there is so much at stake if we don't pray. Can you imagine praying for the right side of your body and not the left? If the right side is not sustained and protected and it falls, it's going to bring down the left side with it. The same is true of you and your husband. If you pray for yourself and not him, you will never find the blessings and fulfillment you want. What happens to him happens to you and you can't get around it."--Stormie Omartian, The Power of a Praying Wife

We have an enemy, moms. Sometimes we don't think about him all that much in the hustle and bustle, the irritated words, the snappish attitude, the unforgiving heart. The enemy uses so many ways to try to bring our marraiges down, trying to tear down the foundations of our homes. If he cannot do it by knocking it down directly, he may opt to try weakening the infrastructure with little hairline cracks. Today's prayer is a stand against the enemy's attempts, with a desire to seek how we might begin healing those weak spots that can invite deeper division.  I encourage you to take the time you need to let the Lord show you those areas. Let's pray!

Heavenly Father,

In a world that prizes individualism, sometimes it is hard to value and appreciate what You have created in marriage. While we must still be personally accountable to You, I also know that in your sight, my husband and I are one flesh.

I realize that this union might be a target of attack for the enemy. I see it all around us as our nation seeks to redefine marriage. I do not want to be a casualty or statistic, but I cannot be foolish enough to believe that our marriage will escape. Please help me to be vigilant in prayer, covering our marriage with it.

Although I am busy, Lord, please help me not to be too busy to fight for this marriage. Even if other things must go, I want to keep fighting. I echo the prayers that Stormie shared in her book:

"I will not allow anything to destroy my marriage." [What are potential or actual threats? Bring these before the Lord.] Father, I ask You to show me how to handle these wisely. What must I do?

"I will not stand by and watch my husband be wearied, beaten down or destroyed." [What are some worries, burdens and cares that your husband bears today?] Father, what can I do to help bear his burden, to be the helpmate that I am designed to be? Am I adding to those burdens?

"I will not sit idle while an invisible wall goes up between us." [What are barriers that are blocking your communication now? Bad habits? Unforgiveness of past issues?...] Will You show me how You might want to use me to start taking that wall down, one brick at a time?

"I will not allow confusion, miscommunication, wrong attitudes, and bad choices to erode what we are trying to build together." Father, please unify our vision, so that we can go in the same direction. Do I harbor any negative attitudes that are detrimental to our marriage? Do I sense any negative attitudes in my husband? Please heal our hearts from the inside out so that we may build our marriage instead of tear it down. For those bad choices we have made, is there a way that we can repent and start moving in a different direction?

"I will not tolerate hurt and unforgiveness leading us to divorce." You know how painful those places are. [Spend some time bringing these areas to the Lord for His healing touch. How have they been eating away at you and your attitude toward your spouse? If possible, work towards releasing those areas of hurt into the just and righteous hands of God so that you can forgive your husband.] I confess that I harbor unforgiveness in my heart for these past hurts and ask that You will forgive me as I also forgive my husband.

You have said that the one who is in me is greater than the one who is in the world. (1 John 4:4) You are victorious over Satan and his kingdom. Even though he may rule this world and there are casualties, I want to place our marriage in the safe hands of Jesus. You have given us power and all we need to overcome all the power of the enemy (Luke 10:19). Show me how to live in that power by praying for my husband so that we can stand under the assault and be victorious. Thank You, Father. In Jesus' name, Amen.