"...do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others. Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus..."--Philippians 2:4, 5 (NASB) You've probably heard it said, "If Mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy." Is that true in your house? I know it is in mine. Whether I want to admit it or not, my attitude will not only impact my home, it will influence my children's responses as well. Grumpiness is catching!
Usually, I am grumpy or impatient or negative because my agenda has been thwarted in some way. You know how it goes. You're late (again) and the kids seem completely oblivious to the fact. They are messing up my schedule, and I often feel completely justified in letting them know in a nasty way. When I do so, I have made my plans and agenda the goal, not loving and serving my family.
This has especially been a challenge for me when I am taking care of Anah. Things just take a lot longer with her, whether it be eating, using the bathroom, or going outside to play. I have had to learn to surrender my agenda, expect to do less, and/or add some margin to my schedule. None of these are options that I like. Yet if I keep insisting on being my own god, I will always end up frustrated and angry with how things turn out. Somewhere along the line, I need to change my attitude and make adjustments.
On my own, I cannot just snap out of my bad attitude into a happy one. Can you? I'm just not one to be a fake with my kids. I can't imagine things are all right when they're not. Pasted smiles don't work with me.
Changing my attitude is a God-thing, but it doesn't mean that it's all up to Him. Rather, I believe that He gives us both the power and the means to change, a way out of our temptation to yell, manipulate, or threaten (1 Cor. 10:13). But I must also choose to follow Him into those ways. It's like treasure available for the taking, but we need to reach out our hand to receive it.
This month's Gabby Moms review product was just that: wisdom from the Word that helps us to provide a means for changing our attitudes. Lorrie's Power and Peace of a Positive Attitude is a series of audio mp3's that walk through practical tips on how to stay centered and sane, growing in gratitude and ways to grow a grateful heart. Thankfulness? Yup. Make no mistake. Along with a godly attitude comes thankfulness---not just during Thanksgiving season but year-round.
The one thing that the Lord impressed on me most through listening to these sessions was how important this was not only to me but to my children as well. If I am having a hard time with my attitude, it's not the end of the world. The challenging thing is to let the Lord work in my heart and be honest with them that I too am in process. My bad attitude can actually be an opportunity not only for Him to grow my character but it allows me a chance to model that process before my children as well. I don't know about your house, but I have lots of opportunities to practice every day! Am I willing to look at them this way?
If this resonates with you, I hope these audios can help. They are short and to the point, great to listen to while you take a walk, put on your makeup, or take the kids to soccer practice. This new audio series will be available Nov. 1 and is full of tips on how to develop the godly attitude we need to not just be happy but to help create the joyful home we desire--beginning with our own hearts. I usually am a little skeptical of titles like this as it sounds like a lot of self-help mumbo jumbo, but this one is centered on the Lord and His ability to help us. The emphasis on thanksgiving and gratefulness is a wonderful prelude for the season to come.
Again, check it out at this link starting November 1.
Disclaimer: I received a copy of this audio set at no charge in exchange for my honest review. All thoughts are my own.