Praying for Our Husbands: 2 Peter 3:18a

Just a note: My goal for this section of the site is to have posts with ideas for different areas to cover in prayer for our husbands, along with Scripture. For the past year, I have been using Stormie Omartian's book, The Power of a Praying Wife to help inspire me with ideas on what I can pray for my husband, besides "Please help him have a good day at work." Some of the ideas will come from the book, some will come from Scripture, some will just be things that I am praying for my own husband. I hope that it will help you stretch your own prayer life and faith as you intercede for your spouse. I know God has been stretching mine. This past weekend, my husband and I had the opportunity to get away for a 24-hour retreat. We had a wonderful time together, thinking about and planning for our future, especially as we anticipate the addition of another family member within the year.

It was especially meaningful as my husband, as a pastor, creates and leads many retreats for other people. I was so blessed that he put together a retreat just for me! He had prayerfully considered areas that we needed to talk about and provided time for us to both be alone to process as well as come together and talk. It was a wonderful time to pray and think together on how we will need to shepherd and guide our children in the next few months, as well as how we will need to prepare, on our end, our home and hearts for Anah.

I think the one thing that impressed me was how much God has been doing in my husband. He is becoming more and more the spiritual leader of the family that I wanted to see. But I was humbled because I am realizing that God changed Dan not because I prayed for him (I wish I could say it was!). He changed him because my husband has been faithful to spend time with Him. He has always been very disciplined, but I have noticed that in the past few years, his relationship with God has deepened, not just his mind.

One of the things that I can pray for my husband is his spiritual growth. 2 Peter 3:18a tells us to "grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ." Just like our physical bodies, our souls need to grow too. It is completely possible to have a grown man's body but a childish spirit. As wives, we can pray:

  • that the Lord will help our husbands grow spiritually
  • if they do not have the desire for spiritual things, we can pray that the Lord will grow that desire in them.
  • if they are too busy, we can pray that the Lord will help them to find time
  • that our husbands will grow in the grace of God which makes them stronger men, not weaker
  • that their minds will be filled with the truth through Scripture
  • that they will mature in wisdom, knowing how and when to apply the truth that they know
  • that they will not be complacent, but keep seeking to know him more and more.

The desire for God is something we cannot force into our husbands. But we can pray. Will you join me in doing so?

Heavenly Father,

Thank You for the gift of new life in Jesus. Just as our physical life needs to be constantly nourished, so do our souls. Will You plant in the hearts of our husbands a desire for the spiritual food that You so willingly offer? Sometimes the things of this world seem so much more appealing and desirable. Father, will you awaken in our husbands a longing for the things that they may not see or realize that they need, the hunger for You?

In these busy days of raising children, earning a living, I pray that You will help my husband to choose to make time for You. When He does, I pray that he will find You there, near and waiting for him. Even if he cannot stay for long, I pray that his heart will be soft, responsive and open to You. I pray that You will fill his mind with Your Word, guide His hands to live it out and inspire him to share what he learns with others around him.

If there is a complacent spirit in my husband, I pray that You will deal with it. I pray that You will convict him and move him to deal with that attitude and bring it before You. Will you replace that complacency with a desire to seek You more and more?

As he grows, may he also grow in Your grace. In a world that often is graceless or sees grace as something for wimps, I pray that my husband will grow in grace that is like Yours---strong, dependable and full of healing. May my husband become more and more like Jesus, the greatest Man that ever walked this earth.

Thank You, Lord, for listening. Please help me to keep growing too, that we may grow in our relationship together as well as in You. In Jesus' name, Amen.