By no means am I saying this is the standard for what we ought to pray for our families, but it is what I am praying for mine. I share this as a way to encourage you in your own prayer life. Definitely make it your own!
Dear Heavenly Father,
What a privilege it is to be blessed with these children. Yes, even Anah. While I believe You have called me to bless them as their mother, I also believe You have sent these four people into my life to shape and refine me so that I can be the woman you desire. It humbles me how you use them to remind me of my limits, my brokenness, and my sin at every turn, yet that is the way You keep me on my knees. It is through these hard times with them that I am given the opportunity to choose as Christ would. I need You, my Heavenly Father, so that I can mature in my own faith even as I raise these precious people in your name.
Father, You know my selfish heart and yet You still invite me to join You in this work. That is so amazing to me! I am unfit, but You give me all I need to do this work. Thank You for entrusting me with this task. Would you keep teaching me day by day so I can represent You well? I cannot do this without Your continual help and grace.
You tell me that You knit each of these children together (Psalm 139:16). You have written their days in Your book. You have good works for them to do (Eph 2:10). They are Yours, not mine. Open my eyes to see, recognize, and appreciate all that You have already put into them. Teach me how to accept their limitations yet wisely challenge them to grow into the people You have designed them to be. Alert me to my own selfish ambitions that may be at odds with Your plans, especially (but not only) with Anah.
Father, as You teach me about Your plans for them, guide me in how I can best equip them. Show me how to share the good news, the Gospel of Christ, in a way that speaks to their souls. I confess I am often so busy with the little things, Lord. Will You help me to be sensitive to the movement of Your Spirit?
I realize that my witness is limited when I do not personally grasp the wonder of what You have done for me, so will You keep my own heart soft too? In the busyness of the day, I invite You to break through my tunnel vision of tasks to do and things to accomplish. I give You permission to intrude into my thoughts when they stray. I invite Your Spirit to convict when I make poor choices. Too often I walk by sight, not faith. Awaken me to the unseen realities around me so that I can see You and then share You with my children.
These children are not mine. I know I am responsible for what I do with my opportunities, but I also acknowledge that they too have a will. They are not robots. And so I ask You to help me to do my part while trusting You with their choices. Help me to know the difference between what I need to do and what I need to entrust to You. You know my tendency to mix them up. Will You grant me that discernment and faith? Teach me how to trust You with their futures, how to pray faithfully for their choices, and how to teach them wisely in the moments I have been given.
And with the prayer to know when to speak, would you give me wisdom when it is best to hold back? There are times when I need to listen, not judge. I am not very good at that and hurt my children instead. Will You teach me to listen as You listen to me? I have so much to learn from You in this area.
You promise me that I have everything I need to not only do this parenting job but to find life in the midst of it. I see so little, Lord, especially with Anah. Lift my eyes to You. Please protect my heart from the discouragement of the enemy, especially when I fail. Would you remind me of Your faithful love and presence when I am at my worst, and then lean on Your grace to try again, to love again, to serve again? Only You can do this in me.
I choose to believe that this is the life You have designed for me today. It will not always be this way, even though it feels like it at times. Teach me how to live this day well instead of worrying about the future. Each day has enough trouble of its own (Matthew 6:34). I trust that when tomorrow comes, You will help me then too. But for today, please help me to love You faithfully by loving the ones You bring into my life. Would you grant me eternal eyes to see the good and separate it from the chaff? In this way, I pray that this day will add more to the treasure in heaven You are storing up for me.
I am Yours, Lord. Use me as You will this day. Thank You for loving me and giving me all I need in Christ. In the name of Jesus, Amen.